I'm trying to find people living parallel lives. My college roommate, City Mission, and I who used to talk all the time have less to say now that she's getting married in a few weeks. I can't relate to her struggles to turn two lives into one and accept her fiance's past marriage. I can't tell her anymore what it's like to sort through my dating options and decide it's probably better to be alone right now. I'm hoping I'll like her fiance but feel a little skeptical knowing my friend from Chicago who was an elegant dancer has been talked into having a pig roast for her reception. I think she's trying to make a point about now being common people like the mennonite she's marrying.
Yesterday my friend Tea & Sympathy called. She said her best friend just began dating someone whom she knows she'll marry. The friend waited a few weeks to tell Tea about the relationship with the intent of protecting her. Feeling abandoned is not something she ended up being saved from. We're both doing this letting go thing while trying to be happy for our friends. I think it's okay to go through the motions of sending cards and gifts and not say that you'll be saying good-bye to a huge journey walked together for a long time after the wedding.
The good news is that today I had the time to finish The Thousand Splendid Suns and think about women on the other side of the world, I took a long walk, and I'm at a coffee shop eating pistachio gelato. I never want to give up days like this.
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